Neglected Blog...

I have to admit that I have not been on here in a quick second. But I have a good reason why.I have been super busy.I promise I will post something worth reading in the next couple of days.....

BLAH.BLAH..BLAH,,,

I am sitting here and that is exactly how I feel. I am trying to pin point one particular thing could be of interest of my thoughts. But I cant come up with anything. I really hate that feeling... Wish I had more to say but all I am getting is BLAH...BLAH..BLAH...

Words From The Wisdom

If you don't take care of your business or self, both will take care of you. If you go through life with no plan, you find yourself living a life with no options....

Double Standard 101

Picture two seats side by side that are in the color scheme of black and white. Now picture two individuals in these two seats, you pick the sides that they are seated on. I pick R for the male and L for the women. As you look at this image everything looks equal as a whole, right? but keep in mind that this is just from the look of things. Now let’s take things a little further,” why we are picturing to individuals in these seats"? The reason: these two individuals are single, **they say, when meeting someone you know in a few minutes of meeting them, if you would like things to move forward with this person. So moving forward the two have established that there is interest on both parts. Women fail to realize but at this point this is when it starts. I know you are wondering what I am referring to, well it is the start of the” double standard". Most women go into something three ways bitter, open or guarded. But most are open, willing and ready to see where things go. In my dating experience I have grown to know that men definitely don’t think like women, but that’s nothing new. So those three ways don’t pertain to a male at all. For most men meeting a woman at the age that is between 20-29 look at things from a just for fun view. I think that most women consider the fact that if a guy wants something with her than it will be. But why is that why cant I have my intentions within the relationships and pursue things in the order that I would like as long as the pursuit is at a reasonable pace.But we all know it doesn't work that way.I believe women are not given a fair shot right from the beginning. A woman finds herself having to prove that she isn’t this or that while a man doesn’t prove anything but what is in his DNA. Most women have to come into something accepting a man for who he is, so why not accept me for who I am and the way that I would like things to be. I sometimes look at modern dating as a circus. The structure of the way things have come to be is just pure entertainment. There is definitely a chemical imbalance; I know that it will take a while for things to balance but to get the balance we have to decode "double standards" from the way things are done….

I Can't Call It

I think that women go through so many different situations where it gets to the point that women really don't know "how to call it" when dealing with the next man. I am in a position where I have been meeting a lot of potential men and it just doesn't ever seem to make sense. We all come to understand that Males and Females have different thoughts on how things are. Ex. You meet a man he invites you out for a outing conversations is good and it seems things are cool for meeting someone new. A women will leave thinking wow this is a guy that I could see something slowly working into a good friendship. A man will leave not thinking anything of that night but what it was,an outing with a women.I find it interesting how men are selective to the order of things depending on the women. I am not particular when it comes to the order of things but does the order of things really matter?That is definitely a big question.When men say just be honest, do they really mean it ? When a man says look I am not judging you, is he saying that but still judging you? Why cant things just be simple if there is a interest you entertain for the reason of knowing that I have to be open to the possibility of meeting someone to have a fair shot .But the reality is that now of days you deal with so much you really just can't call it.....

In The Moment I Had Thought

So I am sitting here watching the movie he's just not that into you a movie that that tries to navigate through the complexities of modern relationships. It's from the white point of view but past the color line it has topics that are definitely similar. So there is this one character that is desperate which is obvious. The reason for her going out is to meet someone and hopefully that lucky someone. Instead of women obligating the night before it starts an idea would be to just try not meeting someone and enjoying the moment of what it is, approaching the night expecting a good time as the only thing in return. If most women would stop putting timers on what should and shouldn’t the results of what they want would make more sense in the end......

Virgo Facts by Zodiac Facts

-Virgos are highly intelligent and many people look up to a Virgo.They are straight thinkers and problem solvers
-Virgos love getting mushy in public
-A Virgo can say all the right words to make you feel better at the end of the day
-A Virgo sometimes finds it hard to show their love.
-Love a Virgo and believe that in return you will receive everything you wanted in a partner from them
-Virgos are rather too self-centered for the high types of disinterested friendship
-A Virgos secret Desire:To love and be loved in return
-A Virgo Life Pursuit:To do the right thing
-Virgos pay special attention to words and to things happening around them so be careful what you say
-Virgos enjoy studying a situation in great detail, whether its a work project of friendship
-Virgos are the worriers of the Zodiac
-Virgos are more followers than leaders(I beg to differ that)
-Virgos crave for true love and finding that special someone with that"It" factor
-A Virgo will but up a fight in a relationship
-Very reliable and punctual those born under the Virgo sun sign will be easy to count on.
-Oddly, the more a Virgo like you,the more shy they behave around you
-Sexually, a Virgo women must feel appreciated for her hard work and devotion to the family before wanting to indulge
-A Virgo women has to make her love-mate realize about the impractical nature for their compatibility to work well
-Virgo women expect their mate to be well groomed, updated and informed about current events
-A Virgo needs a person who completely at ease in bed and who can excite him/her to the highest level
-A Virgo needs a person who is secure and who can take the initiative to communicate sexual and romantic feelings

Your Success Starts With Your Attitude

No one else can be accountable for what doesn’t happen in your life but you. Many people go through life looking at what the next person has envying how greener their grass in and wonder why their cup is always half full. Success is a attitude, its a state a mind, a drive like no other and a focus that can’t be distracted while in route. I mark this week as a start of new journey towards success. I started the work week with the mindset of knowing that doing the bare minimum isn’t enough to equal a productive week. I took the challenge for myself and I am going to own up to it and have something to show for it in my daily performance. I challenge you to take the challenge you will be surprised at what you learn about yourself.

Free Spirit Nights

Many would look at this piece of art and think to themselves that this isn't art it makes no sense but to me it makes great sense it examples free spirit. That is how my night was on last night. My friend was celebrating her 27 birthday at a popular club that I have always been curious of how it is. Well we started the night with laughter’s in the cab and from there it would be no turning back once dropped off. Walking straight in with no problem we were escorted to our table where a bottle of goose awaits. Poured the 1st round of drinks and toasted to a wonderful night ahead. Instantly as the beat filled the club with many hot songs I was just dancing my heart out with my girls and fun guys. Vegas bombs on deck what more could you as for. I love being able to dance like no one is watching because that is what dance is expressed to be. Me being a African women you normally gravitate to the black clubs, but when you go to those club as soon as you approach the line you are being judge from head to toe. When you make it into the club you walk around maybe once grab a drink at the bar and you look left or right and there is someone piercing there eyes and sizing you up. You take a look at the dance floor but not many are dancing. But lets go back to the reason on why you decide to go out in the 1st place to have a good time, but when I leave most urban nights I don't feel that way. Last night was the definition of what a fun night should consist of and those are the nights that I live for. Dancing to the point when the next day rolls around you are trying to figure why in the heck do my legs hurt take a moment and think all because of last night, it was so worth it. Fog machines that go off at the hype point of the club and blow a gush of cold that makes you have not choice but to get even more excited. In sum a night with all walks of life in a room with one mission of having a good time now that definitely concludes free spirit nights at its best.

Bar Escapades

A typical night with one of my homegirls. We decided to met up for drinks. Luckily she was able to catch a seat for us at the bar, little did we know what the night would bring. As we ordered a glass of plum wine to start, we conversed over the usual topics such as men, random happenings, and more. It wasn't to long before we had the random guys trying to make their moves. The guys that are overly loud at the bar for no reason we will label them as (extra) invade your space in every way as possible which can be very frustrating. Getting bumped because someone is trying to get by you to place a quick order, say lil momma let me get you to pass that drink to me, man its my mothaFen bday I am about to act a fool. The list can go on with the annoying loud talk that you have to deal with when at a bar. But as usual casual conversation always amounts from the annoying ones. The guys bought us a shot called Washington apple and enjoyed the most of the night in that moment as we could. We actually got a chance to get us a couple of laughs out of one the most annoying guys. Well my friend ended up knowing one of the guys that was with the group. As usual there is always that one guy plotting on how he is going to make his move. I have to admit the approach this one guy had was actually smooth we exchanged numbers. I also ran into couple of people that I knew and talked to them for a little. The bar is definitely a magnet of attraction. Everyone always has there eyes open to something new.I ended up seeing an old employee that I hadn't seen in forever, it was good to see that life was full for him and he was doing great. The night moves right along and I end up getting approached by an aggressive guy he tried to wow me with his title and talks about how he is a doctor. This guy was very demanding when it came to making eye contact. Anytime I would talk to him he would be like look at me, when he did that I am thinking to much. He went on to tell me that he was eyeing me for the longest but didn't want to say anything until there was no one around me. That like would have been somewhat cute if he had swag, but NEGATIVE. This guy was really weird, he asked me take his number and then told me not to worry about then. I really didn't care to have his number or him have mine. I really hate when guys tell you to take their number down and then ask you to call them while you standing there. I really think that is def a weak move. While in the moment of talking to this lame guy, this other guy caught my eye and I really wanted to make my move of cordial conversation but I couldn't get this aggressive dude out of my face. I am forward person and just had to tell him I need to go so I could be on to the next. I got a chance to come in close contact with the guy that caught my attention. We had flirtatious conversation with my blend of hard to get, we exchanged number but never addressed interest on either part. He was club promoter and was going to text me the next time that he had a party he was hosting. Well the recap of our night was definitely interesting, I wish I could touch on every detail but this seems like more than enough. I live for unexpected :)

Actress Spotlight

Dorthy Dandridge was a talented actress and vocalist whose career ended to soon. I was first brought to light about this talented actress when I saw the 1999 movie, "Introducing Dorthy Dandridge". Actress Halle Berry does her life story justice in the supporting role. I was drawn to Ms. Dandridge's style,perfection and grace as a performer. She had aspirations to succeed on her own, with a ammo to break down the barriers that were placed because of the color of her skin. Some of Dandridge's earlier work was "Tarzan's Peril","The Harlem Globetrotters" and "Bright Road".Roles that made her a star; "Carmen Jones","Tamango" and "Porgy and Bess". That is why I chose Dorthy Danridge as the highlighted actress of the week

A plan

So I am ending the week feeling very accomplished. I set a goal to get a F/T job and I am excited to say that I start on Monday. Being a young adult you think at times you have it all figured out just because for the moment things are going the way you want. I found myself in the mindset of why am I not were I need to be? Sometimes we get comfortable with a particular routine failing to realize all the movement we are doing still has us still. So thats when it clicks,I need a plan. A plan that is detailed, routed and realistic. With a plan we can prorotize and take care of the things that are needed vs whats wanted. Once the foundation is layed from there you can address the interest of one thing in life you want to do but we have to chose one and foucs on how to accomplish within that desire. So I am in the postion of laying down a foundation and I have to say I am looking forward to this new journey.and obtaining the things that I really want in life.